Looking for that perfect wedding gift can be stressful, even with all the "inside information" provided by registries. But the joy of discovering something you just know they'll love (or at least use a lot) can't be beat. Housewares are always a classic choice, but you may also want to consider something for their honeymoon, or a little luxury to start off their new life.       The bride's last night out with her girlfriends as a single woman is a huge event. This isn't the time to "shower" her with bakeware and towels, the perfect gift for a bachelorette is something personal (and maybe even naughty) something to celebrate her, and the happily wedded woman she will be. Select a gift that shows how glad you are to be a part of her last single girls' night.       Wedding or bridal showers used to be for the bride and were almost always an all-female occasion, but nowadays this occasion may include the groom and male family and friends. Some wedding showers have a theme, such as lingerie or cookbooks; the host or hostess will let you know if there is a theme for the gifts. The gifts in this column are geared either toward the bride or the couple and include gifts from some common shower themes.       One of the most tumultuous times for the recipient translates into one of the easiest gift opportunities for you! Engaged people need everything: they need to calm down, they need to plan, and they need to furnish their homes. Keep in mind that they may view the future with equal parts joy and alarm. The best kinds of gifts, then, solve dilemmas and give them less to fret about.       Planning the perfect activity for you and someone special can be very daunting. It has to be personal. It has to be something that you BOTH enjoy. You can consider the hobbies, sports, or attitudes you have in common or take a chance. If all else fails, pick something that at least you will enjoy. That way, your partner won’t feel they’ve wasted their own money and you’ll have a wonderful experience.