Of Love, Life, and Marriage

by Wedding In The Sky on 09/23/2011 - 12:12 pm |

In 2008, a movie entitled "Fireproof" was released with its tagline, fireproof your marriage. In the story, the married couple Caleb Holt and Catherine Holt is in the verge of a divorce. In the movie, Caleb is a firefighter with a pornography addiction and a boat obsession. He starts to keep everything to himself and arguments ensues their household almost constantly. Catherine on the other hand has monetary problems and she becomes exasperated with her husband's lack of interest in their relationship. She is also being pursued by a doctor who -- even knowing that she's married -- wants to have an affair with her. To save their relationship, Caleb's father John sends Caleb a love dare, a 40-day trial of simple things that he doesn't usually do. Simple things like sending flowers without any occasions or just simply complimenting his wife did wonders for their relationship.

Marriage is the ultimate commitment. But from the looks of the divorce statistics all around the world, one would think that it's just a temporary fix. But it doesn't have to be that way. It requires love, patience, respect, time, space, effort, and yes, money. Not just for the wedding day itself but beyond all that. Marital life is making a lifetime commitment to spend one's life with another person. It's the ultimate exclusivity but sadly, some interpret it as a cage that binds two people together, and if they want out, they just call their divorce lawyers to open the cage. But it doesn't have to be that way. Not all nuptials are cages and not all lead to divorce.

The number one thing a person has to remember about marital life is that it takes two to tango. It takes two persons to make or break the relationship. It's about apologizing for the things that one did or didn't do. It's about letting the other person's mistakes or helping them get through it. It's about making things work and making the decision to stick with it even if it doesn't. It's about loving a person at their best and worst times. It's about forgiving them even if they didn't say their sorry. It's about taking responsibilities for one's action. It's about taking care of another and letting them take care of you. It's about finding that middle ground and that compromise. It's about willing to let another person's wishes go above your own. It's about being strong enough to bear the hurts and the pains of another person and being vulnerable enough to let the other person feel one's own. It's about breakfast in beds, and late night calls to say "Honey don't wait for me I'll be late" and still waiting for them curled up in the couch. It's about intimacy, emotional, physical and psychological security. It's about making the other person one's greatest strength and weakness.

To save a marriage, one must treat the person as another part of himself/herself. Two separate beings inseparable by vows, love and commitments. Let go of the hurt, and the pride. One must forgive as he/she wants to be forgiven and to treat the other person as he/she wants to be treated.

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